Change!

Change, how many of us like change? What does change do to you and how does it effect our lives. I personally used to dislike change. I felt like change was messing up my life. But as I grew older I began to articulate that change is necessary. To me change is like being in a relationship; our single ways have to change in order to have a healthy relationship. You may say that you don't have to change but if you want it to work and make that connection some things are going to have to change. It's not easy by far but it's for the better. Webster dictionary says change means to make form of something from what it used to be ( to change the course of history ). What stood out to me was changing the course of history. Can you imagine if nothing had change since the early first century...no electricity or running water, no malls or nail salons, no cars, cell phones or iPads. Life would be a lot less interesting right about now. I thank God for change. Change is necessary and very much needed as life goes on. Tell me, what changes have you made in your life that could change the course of history? Better yet what decisions have you not made due to the fact that you fear change? For me mine would be accepting God into my life allowing Him to transform my ways of thinking and providing me with His knowledge and wisdom to make decisions my life for the better. It all boils down to that CHANGE is GOOD, so step out on faith and try it. If all els fails you can always go back to the way you were before.all it takes is having faith the size of a mustard seed. Try change today! Love you be blessed and smile.

Bondage!

Bondage you say...... Most think whips, chains, even being tied up. However the bondage I am referring to is the one we have a denial about being in. Are you ever honest enough with yourself to say I am in bondage right now? The answer is NO, well I should say I know I haven't. I do know that we all have some kind of bondage rather we want to admit it or not. I can only speak for myself, my bondage was control, which stopped me from being open minded and hearing what others had to say, I felt like if I listen to others then I was losing my control and they were gaining what I had. The bondage I have now is my weight it is preventing me from doing things such as learning to swim, running with my kids, even dancing which I love to do. I have also noticed that with the weight bondage this blood pressure that I have does not disappear or leave if anything it rises higher which can cause me to have strokes and heart attacks, but God! So what is your bondage? It could be, sex, compulsive eating, stealing, lying, drinking, shopping, drugs, prostitution, people pleasing, gossiping. I have provided a list of things that can cause us to be in bondage. Once you realize what your bondage is do you know how to get support while in your bondage. Well if you don't I can shine some light on what you can do. My church has this life group that I attend called (CR) Celebrate Recovery, this life group has open me up in ways I would not have even thought was possible, but God. It allows you to speak aloud on issue that you are scared to speak on, you receive support, and I am learning I can do nothing by myself. We are better together. Please get connected to a life group or find a spiritual partner, if you have any questions on how to do either please feel free to ask me. Love you be blessed and smile!

Friendships!

What does a friendship mean to you? That is the question of the day. As I sit here and ponder on, what’s a friendship? I first evaluate what it means to be a friend. Which to me a friend is someone who show affection and is interested in you also cares about you willing to go through things with you also someone who does not judge you no matter what, or someone I can tell my most intimate secrets to and telling the truth even when it hurts you. When think I think of a friend one song always comes to mind for me it goes this way. I am a friend of God, I am a friend of God, He calls me friend. That means a lot to me, to have my creator call me friend even though I know that I have not done all that I needed to do to earn that title. This is what a friend is to me, which made me reevaluate what type of friend am I as well as what type of friend I could be. Have you ever sat and ask yourself what type of friend you are, or if you can be a better friend to someone. I used to say that I was a great friend to my friends, when I looked back I seen that I picked and choose who I was a great friend to and the reasons why. Can someone say judgmental (lol) yes I was and never seen it that way. I know that we all have friends; I also know that you love friends on different levels. Which is not a bad thing what I am saying is don’t be so quick to judge who you are good to and who you are not. I pray that we all have the heart to allow God to work in us and provide us with the wisdom of being a great friend as well as forming wonderful friendships. So now is the time if you have not already done so, to sit and ask what kind of friend am I. Love you be blessed and remember to smile!

Beauty!

What is beauty? When someone says you are beautiful, have you ever thought what in the world are they looking at. Do you look at yourself in the mirror and say man I look good. If you wont admit it I will. There has been a couple of times I step back into the mirror to say I am beautiful, now grant it your beauty may not be my beauty but I know what I saw at that moment. Why do we have to define beauty with skin color or hair texture, better yet size or style. It really breaks my heart when I see others that have changed themselves with surgery's to make sure they look or feel a certain way because someone told them that this can enhance their beauty. I have always said we are made different for a reason and if God wanted us to look a certain way he would have made us that way. I am short and there is nothing I want to do about that. I seen a T.V. show where someone had got implants in there calves or tried to have a knee lift, that is so scary to me. If it was meant for me to be tall I would be and there would be nothing I can do about it. The bibles says... I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works. Do you know what that means? It means that God made no mistakes in his works making you and I. He breathes life into our bodies and framed us with his hands, cant no man do that, and from the looks of what surgery's do to folks I don't want no man doing nothing to enhance nothing on me. LOL. The next time you feel like you need an enhancement, sit back and say I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous is thy works and God makes no mistakes. I love you be holy and smile!

Love!

We all can say we know love or have experienced love right? The answer for me will be yes, however I learned that the love is TIME. HUH! Yes that is what I said when I heard that, however when you think about and be real honest with yourself it is true. What does that mean you say? Glad you ask. Love is used as a cliché these days because it sounds like the right thing to say but love is an action word it takes TIME and effort. We often say I love him/her but when you account for your time spent, how much of that is spent with them? I had to ask myself the same thing when it came to my Jesus. I cry and pray and praise His holy name I know in my heart that I love Jesus, and no one can tell me different. A while ago I had to look at the time I was investing in my relationship with Jesus, how can you love someone that you know nothing about or spend no time with? I prayed that but God teaching me to use the time He gives me more wisely, so that I am spending time in prayer and in his word, so that my heart matches my actions. Today I can truly say I love Jesus, not that it was fake the first time, but my time would have said otherwise. Sit back and look at what and how you time is spent, be real with yourself on the time you spend. I can help you out a little further. I used to say to my husband, oh baby I love you so. I do, however when it came to my time I was always at happy hours with the crew from work, never missed a moment at Applebee’s, yes I had to rethink what was I loving. I thank God for change of heart as well as the way of thinking. My pastor always say you have to change the way you think, trust me it's not easy and it won’t happen overnight but I'm a firm believer that prayer changes things, I know that all things are possible in Christ. So the question of the day is what do you love and whatever that may be is your time invested in it. Be blessed and please Smile!

Stepping out of the Dark!

This weekend was full of love and happiness. Hope you all had a great weekend as well. Today I want to talk about coming out of the dark. I learned this weekend that a lot of us are in the dark, and we don’t realize it until someone turns on the light. When the light is turned on we wonder why our eyes have to adjust to the light and at times we ask who turned on the light. This statement is referring to the things we do behind closed doors and thinking we are hiding in the process of doing it. Have you ever heard the saying. What's done in the dark will come to the light? This is very true. Have you ever turned on your own light and was scared of what you saw. I had a reality check after turning on my own light. One of my own experiences of being in the dark is that, I like to eat and never knew how much until I gained weighed, the funny thing about it is that I eat at night time more than I do in the day time. I always asked myself how did I gain all this weight and most of the time while I'm pondering I'm eating a bowl of ice-cream or burger after 8pm..go figure right..lol..i never thought to consider that I had a eating problem. I don’t eat a lot I just eat at the wrong times. After looking at what I do in the dark verses what I was doing in the day time, I have prayed that God gives me his will power t control my eating habits when it comes to the night time, as I write to you at this moment I am struggling with my weight as well as the blood pressure that I have encountered along the way. Even thought my blood pressure occurred after I had my second child it could have been controlled, however with the late night snacking it did not help at all. For me to see this was very hard and scary when I flipped on the light switch. I am not point fingers at anyone just myself, no need talking about the tooth pick in your eye when I got a plank in my own. This is why I say we are better together. I am praying that we all can see the light. It is okay to help each other without judging. Please review your life and evaluate it to see where your darkness lays. Be blessed and smile.

Dreams!

How many of you have dreams? If you have dreams do you live them out or at least work toward living them out? Do you see the vision of your dream or know what it means? I have dreams and some are clear to me, others can be a bit challenging. Either way I think it is very important to at least look into your dreams or acknowledge them. You never know what messages are in your dreams, don’t be so quick to disregard dreams. Have you ever heard or said yourself follow your first mind? To me that is the same when it comes to your dreams, I feel that dreams are heartfelt and a lot of us run from them, when we should really be researching and learning more from the dream. I pray that the dreams are not just going to waste and that you are at least looking into them to see the message or lesson in the dream. Just think about it. Be Holy! Smile this weekend and touch someone else. Love you be blessed.

Time

I know I am late today, however I do have a question. What do you do with your time? How is your time spent, do you ever think or say aloud man where does the time go? It is very important that we know where your time goes and how you use your time. I will be honest I have said that a lot, now I have learned to stop, pause a little and look back on the day to see what I have done. I think we all need to pause a moment to see what we are using our time for, cause once it is gone it is gone there is no getting that back. Time is valuable and we do need to know and understand how we use that time. I pray that we all have a schedule and know what happen to the 24 hours that we have been blessed with. Please share your thoughts. And feel free to comment. Be Holy and smile!

Out of Control!

Last night is the first time that I realized that my life is out of control. I know most of you may be saying not my life, I got it together every thing is in control(lol) keep thinking that. The reason I know my life is out of control is first, I don't have a budget at all. Then i want to wonder why the funds I have is always gone. Second I do not have a schedule in my life, yes I get up come to work then what. God has given us 24 hours in a day only to do what we need to plan to do, there is no reason to be over worked, extermaly tried or stressed out about there is not enough time in the day. If you have ever said there is not enough time in the day, your schudeled life is out of control. There is enough time in the day it is exactly what God made it to be and when the day ends you start again the next day after 6 to 8 hours of sleep anything less then that for sleep you will be out of control and your body will tell you so. Today I pray that God provides me with a budget as well as a daily schudele, I heard it this way when you dont plan for something you plan for anything, that is not a good thing. You must have a plan. Get some control in your life the good kind anyway! Ask yourself is my life out of control? Have a blessed day and smile!

Relationship!

How many of you has had a relationship at some point in your life? I know that we all know the work that can come in a relationship, not only the work but the way it feels to trust that other person and to Love. This is the same relationship that Jesus wants with us. The way we converse with one another and love, and for those that say I am real all the time, he wants that too. To be your best friend and share your life walk with. What better person to do that with than the one who create you. I always say that I am a true friend, so I know that anyone that has me as a friend is truly blessed, however I learned that it is the other way around and I thank Jesus for that confirmation. I know that now I can be a real good friend to others due to the friendship I have with Jesus. I encourage you all to be a friend and if you are not sure how to do that I pray that you start with our father first to learn how to love trust and be compassionate to others feelings as well as understand that we are all different for a reason. So share what you have with others, it does no good to keep it to yourself. Be Holy! Smile!

Start!

Welcome back beautiful ladies. I pray that everyone had a wonderful weekend and was blessed with a word from the Lord. If not I know that I got enough for us all. This weekend I ministered at a church that was catered to the youth which is a blessing, since we have so many youth out here that are trying to find their way. I know that it is our job to assist them in finding that way to do that we must Start. It does not matter if they are our kids or not, they are our future and that is all that matters, and we protect our future. We all have been young at some point in time or another and know how hard it can be when trying to find yourself, some of us are still finding ourselves, however now we know that when you are younger how the mind is at times a little stronger and there is much more influence when you are trying to discover who and what you are. I pray that we are all praying the same prayer for our youth, I pay that we are praying for their protection and guidance as  well as the right influences around them, and the knowledge to know who and what they are here for and the purpose for their life. I personally will be praying that for all of us as well. In the name of Jesus Amen. Be holy! And smile!

Doesn't cost a thing to smile

Do you know that you use less muscles in your face when you smile than when you frown. And what does it cost you to smile? A smile can lite up a room, it can also brighten someone's day. When you frown it can be taken the wrong way and you might not even be mad at that person, however if that person wants to talk to you and it is very important you can cause them to change their mind and at that point you have blocked a blessing. A smile is warm comforting as well as inviting, which means you want to engage in a conversation or you want to know my thoughts or even you want to assist in anyway that you can. A smile can change the way someone is feeling, say you are having a bad day and I walk up to you with this big smile and plant a huge hug on you, there is no way you can tell me that would not make your day just that much better. I have learned that a smile and a hug has stopped some people from hurting themselves as well as someone else. Your challenge this weekend is to make someone's day or weekend by smiling like you care and if you are ok with hugs give a hug. India Arie said it best when she sang. It doesn't cost a thing to smile you don't have to pay to laugh you better thank God for that. When I heard that songs for the first time, I smirked a little. At that time I did thank the Lord that I didn't have to pay to laugh and it doesn't cost a thing to smile, cause if it did I would be living on the streets broke(lol). I figure if I have a wonderful gift that I was blessed with I will use it until it can be used no more. Thank you have a blessed weekend. I will resume on Monday. Love you all and Smile!

Questions?

Since this is my 10th day of my blog. I would like to open the floor for Q&A's. You can ask question regarding, relationships, dating, friendships, work, church, even myself. Ask and I shall answer. Don't worry I'll wait!

Thanks!

Good morning beautiful people of Christ. Today I want to thank our father in heaven for a wonderful birthday I had yesterday. I would like to thank God for all the love others have for me, all the birthday wishes I received as well as the gifts. My heart was overwhelmed knowing how others feel about me, I thank you for the heart to love others and to accept them for who they are and know who you want them to be. I thank you for insight on heart felt issues and understanding on how to overcome them. I thank you for knowing my temptation and knowing right from wrong. Lord I thank you for being able to breath for working organs and for the ability to know when something is wrong. I thank you for this blog knowing that you will use it to touch others all over. I know that I can sit here and thank you all day, however I would like to leave some thanks for others but before I do that, I have one last thanks today. I thank you for my relationship with you and the testimonies you have blessed me with to share as well as the growth in my life. This is my prayer of thanks today in your sweet sweet name Jesus Amen!

Living!

Today is the day that the Lord has made I will rejoice and been glad in it. God has blessed me to see 35 years today and what a blessing it has been, if the Lord takes me today I will be a happy soul. My life may not be prefect, I may have sinned more than most and done things that may drop some mouths, in the mist of it all I know that my Father loves me no matter what and all the things I have done and do is nothing more than a testimony to help my fellow sista. So walk tall have no shame, don’t hide from the world show the world the works of God, show the world how God can take a dirty ol cloth and clean it white as snow, for by his strips we are healed. And at the end of my day that means more to me then working, laughter, self-pity, and all the other selfish things we can think of. Take a moment to think of what you have done in the years you have on this earth, while doing that write down how you feel and why you feel that way. If you are bold enough tell me so we can get to the root of the feelings. I love you be blessed. Happy Birthday to me, thank you Jesus!

Truth

Hope all had a great weekend. Mine was wonderful especially at church. I wonder why do we forget what God has in store for us, you dont have to admit it I do sometimes forget and it is not on purpose. There are times that I do not want to be bothered or hug or give a smile, however I noticed that I do not have control over that. God made me who I am and I love it. I am glad that on a bad day I can smile and I never knew why now I know it is because of the goodness God has done for me and that God has put in me. No matter how the outcome may be I know that there is always someone having a harder time than I and then my thoughts turn to help mode, this is the heart that I have on helping others and I cannot change who I am or what needs to be done. Have you ever know that someone needed help and you did not want to help them cause you were too tried to even help yourself? I have and I find that is the best time to assist someone else in their time of need so please lend a helping hand, remember it can be you on the other side needing that assistance, I know that never is a hard word but never turn your back on those in need, God says when you do unto the least of them you have done unto me, which is my goal. Be blessed today ladies. Love you.

Passion

I was thinking this morning what is my passion? What does my heart desire to do? Ever sit and ask yourself, what does my heart desire to do? Right now I feel that my passion is working with others that need assistance with life problems. As we all need someone to talk to and to tell our testimonies to. So I will be praying that God leads me deeper to do this as long as it is his will I know it will be done, I also pray that you learn your passions and understand your heart desires. Have a blessed day.

The real

Day 4: I am really thankful that no matter what goes on, like husband acting crazy or kids not listen, and even at times I want to leave just to know that God has my back through it all makes my life that much more prefect. Grateful for my relationship with the Lord and praying that it increases with the wisdom and love. I know that life is not always what we want it to be, however once we find out what purpose GOD has us here for and what to do with the purpose we will always know that we have a purpose and can strive to fulfill that purpose. Blessing to those who are taking the time out of there scheduled to read my blog and please leave comments or suggestion on what you would like me to talk about, as I stated in the about me I need you and you will soon learn that you need me to. Love you be blessed!

Prayer

Lord I pray to you this morning that anyone who is reading this blog will be covered and know that as a child of God we are covered in your blood, this morning I thank you for waking us and leading us on our many different ways, cover us in our work places Lord I pray we have a mind set that we are working for you and not the bosses or owners of the companies you own it all I pray that you remove any spirits that are not of you Lord, I pray that I touch a soul for you and make a change in another life that you have purposed me to do, i pray that every individual knows their purpose in life and is living it out for you, in the name of Jesus I pray this blog is a blessing to someone else's life and that you provide me with your insight to send out to the world in Jesus name I pray and give you thanks Amen.

What does the day bring

Good morning ladies this is day 2 of another blog experience. What does you day bring? When you wake in the morning what do you already have in thought that your day will bring? Do you ever wake in a mood that you have no idea where it came from and say to yourself it’s going to be a bad day or today is going to be great day, ponder for a moment if so tell me your outcome and in what way did you have the option to change that day to another mood?

Insight

I know at times in life we do not think about the issues, problems or situations that come our way. When this appears in your life, what is your reaction and how do you respond on such affairs?

Life

Good morning ladies. This is the day that the Lord has made I will rejoice and be glad. In it. I will start this out with a question. What drives your life or to minimize that your day?